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From Suzy Reading: There is no denying the profound effect positive relationships, or their absence, have on our wellbeing, health and happiness. Human beings have a basic need to belong – it is an evolutionary, biological drive. Positive relationships provide us with support in times of crisis and they amplify our joy by allowing us to share in the good times. In relationship we experience love, comfort and acceptance, adding meaning and purpose to our lives. They create for us an “upward spiral”. The more time, energy and effort we put into building more positive relationships, the more we experience positive emotions. The happier we are the more we attract higher-quality relationships which in turn, make us happier! It is a continuous positive feedback loop. Investing in building more positive relationships is one of the most powerful strategies to boost happiness.
From Bridget Grenville-Cleave at Positive Psychology News Daily: In our Positive Psychology Masterclasses, we frequently discuss with participants the relative merits of flow (also known as engagement or absorption) and positive emotions as routes to happiness. Based on our individual experiences we all have different perspectives. Some put their money firmly on positive emotion being a superior source of happiness. The work of Barbara Fredrickson on the Broaden-and-Build theory of positive emotions has opened our eyes to the possibility that positive emotions are more important than we have traditionally thought. They don’t just make us feel good, they do us good too. But the more I learn about it, the more I think that the importance of flow as a source of well-being is vastly understated.
“The best moments in our lives are not the passive, receptive, relaxing times… The best moments usually occur if a person’s body or mind is stretched to its limits in a voluntary effort to accomplish something difficult and worthwhile. Optimal experience is thus something we make happen.” (Csikszentmihalyi, 1992, p.3)
In a 2005 article in American Psychologist, Barbara Fredrickson and Marcial Losada suggest that ratios of positive to negative emotions above about 3-to-1 and below about 11-to-1 are what humans need to flourish. In separate research studies — Fredrickson on positive emotions and Losada on characteristics of high-performing business teams — each found a 3.0 tipping-point. · Read more →
From Gretchen Rubin: It means, always be able to leave when you want. Drive yourself to a party instead of getting a ride, so you can leave when you’re ready. Try to go to someone else’s house, or a public place, instead of having people over to your house, because there’s nothing worse than seeing someone lean back and cross their legs when you’re ready to go to bed. Or else have people over to your house before some event – before a dinner reservation or a movie – so you have to leave by a certain time.
From Tim Sanders: Talking about how bad the economy is constitutes a sideways conversation. You cannot be afraid enough of the future to make it better – in fact, you’ll often make it worse. Dale Carnegie trained his YMCA students in the 30’s to ignite positive conversations by opening with “what’s the good word?”. It changes the conversation, the mood and the direction of the talk. You could also ask people the following: What are enthused about these days? What are your working on these days? Tell me something interesting, I’m dying to hear about something new and cool.
From Positivity Blog: “The simplification of life is one of the steps to inner peace. A persistent simplification will create an inner and outer well-being that places harmony in one’s life.” — Peace Pilgrim
Gretchen Rubin interviews Andy Borowitz, editor of The 50 Funniest American Writers: An Anthology of Humor from Mark Twain to The Onion.
From Jason Fried: The Navajo see mistakes as moments in time. And since you can’t change time, why try to change a mistake that already happened? The mistake is already woven into the fabric of time. It’s good to be reminded of it when you look back.