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8 11, 2013

The science of why our brains are wired to connect

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From Brain Pickings: In his new book Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect, neuroscientist Matthew D. Lieberman, director of UCLA’s Social Cognitive Neuroscience lab, sets out to “get clear about ‘who we are’ as social creatures and to reveal how a more accurate understanding of our social nature can improve our lives and our society. Lieberman, who has spent the past two decades using tools like fMRI to study how the human brain responds to its social context, has found over and over again that our brains aren’t merely simplistic mechanisms that only respond to pain and pleasure, as philosopher Jeremy Bentham famously claimed, but are instead wired to connect. At the heart of his inquiry is a simple question: Why do we feel such intense agony when we lose a loved one? He argues that, far from being a design flaw in our neural architecture, our capacity for such overwhelming grief is a vital feature of our evolutionary constitution. · Go to The science of why our brains are wired to connect →

8 11, 2013

The 99% guide to building relationships

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From 99%: No matter how talented we are, we still often rely on a network of friends and colleagues to reveal new opportunities. However, “networking” is more than just exchanging business cards. It’s about building relationships in an authentic way. · Go to The 99% guide to building relationships →

26 07, 2011

Relationship breakthroughs #2: Connect personally

Tue, Jul 26, 2011|Filed in: Bookmarks|Topics: , |Comments Off on Relationship breakthroughs #2: Connect personally

From Andrew Sobel: You don’t have to become good friends with clients or colleagues. But you do need to get to know them as people. That means understanding their background, family situation, likes and dislikes, preferred means of communications, how they make decisions, their risk tolerance, and so on. · Go to Relationship breakthroughs #2: Connect personally →

26 07, 2011

Relationship breakthoughs #1: Change the relationship environment

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From Andrew Sobel: Studies on marriage show that when couples change their traditional environments (i.e., go to new restaurants, places, events, etc.) their feelings of intimacy increase. The same is true of client relationships. When you get outside the office, and interact over a meal, at an arts performance, or during an offsite meeting, you connect in ways you never will in a formal conference room. You talk about different, more personal things. You open up more. · Go to Relationship breakthoughs #1: Change the relationship environment →

4 04, 2011

Startup questions for team relationships

Mon, Apr 4, 2011|Filed in: Exercises, meeting designs & questions|Topics: , , , , |Comments Off on Startup questions for team relationships

Edgar Schein writes, "When two or more people come together to form a work or task-oriented group, there will first be a period of essentially self-oriented behavior reflecting various concerns that any new member of a group could be expected to experience." Here are questions to help the team in its forming stage. The questions are designed for each individual to answer and then share with the team.

13 01, 2011

Questions to help build a personal relationship with clients

Thu, Jan 13, 2011|Filed in: Bookmarks, Exercises, meeting designs & questions|Topics: , , |Comments Off on Questions to help build a personal relationship with clients

From Andrew Sobel: Here is a sampling of questions you might use to help you get to know your clients as people (but just don't use them all at once!). · Go to Questions to help build a personal relationship with clients →

12 01, 2011

Principles under pressure: Working in adversarial relationships

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From Aryanne Oade in ChangeThis: “This manifesto is about how to work with such an adversarial character, whether they are your boss, peer or team member. It is about how to use the specific behavior you need to use to help you manage the unclear boundaries, ambivalent motives and occasional duplicitous conduct that characterizes adversarial working relationships. By the end of the manifesto I hope you will have the insight and interpersonal know-how you need to handle these tricky co-workers more effectively and retain the degree of influence in your work with them that you would like to have.” · Go to Principles under pressure: Working in adversarial relationships →

28 07, 2010

Humberto Maturana: “Democracy is an attempt at coexistence, it is based on mutual respect”

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From Forum Barcelona: Humberto Maturana stated that “power is based on obedience, the person who obeys gives power to the person who orders.” He stated that “men and woman can be equally discriminating, gender doesn’t matter. It depends on the relationship that we as humans establish among ourselves. This deals with relational behavior, it is a way of relating oneself to others, it has nothing to do with the masculine or feminine gender. It is not biological, but cultural.”

Maturana used the example of the shrew, a very common animal in central Europe. This animal, he explained, regularly repeats its path in its daily life. This said, if the shrew changes its path, it returns to its cave, and starts the path again. “First it is surprised, then it repeats the path, and then it invents a new one. Something similar also happens to humans. When there isn’t a routine we become disoriented, but, in the end, we are creative.” · Go to Humberto Maturana: “Democracy is an attempt at coexistence, it is based on mutual respect” →

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